To show that sex is divine arrangement for the fulfilment of divine purposes
A couple in romantic pose

Sex is one word that has been so much misused, misapplied and misunderstood. If children dare to mention it in the presence of their parents, they receive hot slaps or grimaces of warning. If adolescents talk about it, it is done in whisper, when they have looked right and left and ascertained that an adult is not within ear shot. If a child, by accident or perhaps out of curiosity, touches his or her genitals, the parents (depending on exposure) conclude that the child has committed a taboo and must be skinned alive.

Is there something about sex more than meets the eye? My candid answer to this is yes. If not why is the whole world under the stupefying influence of sex? A no nonsense man of the highest social standing can be manipulated like a toy because of sex. In less than the past one year, there has been alarming rise in cases of sex-for-marks reports at institutions of higher learning across the globe. We cannot forget in a hurry the travails that a former president of the United States of America passed through after he had thrown decorum to the winds and crossed the red line with a White House intern. A top rated hip hop star, R. Kelly, is cooling off in prison at this moment. Similarly, a frontline American Television personality, Bill Cosby, is also playing guest to a penitentiary as we speak. Clergies have lost their garbs; men of honour and heroism have turned villains, while masters have become slaves because of this three letter word, sex.

Is sex really sinful? I do not think so. If it were, then God’s Word has contradicted itself. However, we know that God’s word cannot contradict itself. This is what God’s word says. “And God saw everything that he had made, and, behold, it was very good (Genesis 1:31).
God saw that everything He has made (including sex) was good. The primary syllogism behind this is:

All that God created was good
Sex was created by God
Therefore, sex was good

Everything God created is good and is meant for specific purposes. Man, however, has a penchant for abusing everything that God has made. To abuse means to use arbitrarily. The implication here is that once anything that was meant for a particular good purpose is used otherwise, it has been abused. Everything has its place and purpose.

Why did God create sex?

God created sex for several purposes. These include pleasure, stress reduction, and procreation.

Pleasure: Sex is arguably the most pleasurable activity in the life of man. This, God also made on purpose: To enable man (man and woman) to crave for more. This was necessary if man must fulfil the purpose of procreation. As it is, for sanity, everything no matter how good or pleasurable must be regulated. Therefore, God also placed strict regulations on sex. He said, …man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife (marriage): and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24); “Do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other {of your due marital rights}, except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [to sin] through your lack of restraint to sexual desire (1 Corintians 7:5).” The pleasure of sex, therefore, was meant to be enjoyed within the exclusive precinct of marriage. This was further reiterated in Hebrews 13:4, “Let marriage be held in honour (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonoured), for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous (Amplified Bible). God also tests our faithfulness and love for Him by allowing us to make the choices either to obey Him and keep ourselves pure till we get legally married or disobey Him by subscribing to illicit pleasure. The later actually comes with a lot of troubles.

Stress reduction: Apart from being pleasurable, sex is a tranquiliser. It calms and relaxes the nerves. That is the reason a couple normally falls into deep sleep after a satisfactory sex. Note that I said satisfactory. I use the word deliberately because satisfactory sex is supposed to be found only in a marriage relationship. There is actually nothing satisfactory about illicit sex. It only increases anxiety. If in form of adultery, the culprits live in fear of getting found out. If in fornication, they hold their hearts in their mouths for the whole month until the lady has experienced her monthly menstruation. In that case, stress is increased instead of being reduced.

Procreation: Sex was introduced by God because He never intended to create man and woman the way He did Adam and Eve anymore. Listen to this, Satan after he had been thrown down from Heaven, has never forgiven God. His business thenceforth had always been to oppose God and all that is godly. He is the one behind the rebellious nature of man. God, in His omniscience, knew that even in procreation, Satan would cause man to rebel against God, like Onan did (Genesis 38:9) counting it a bore and a toilsome labour to get the woman pregnant. Therefore, God introduced an irresistible pleasure in sex to keep the couple wanting more and by so doing enhance procreation without stress.

Sex is not sinful; neither did God create it by mistake or as an afterthought. It is rather a divine initiative which God, in His love, brought about to enhance the pleasure, procreation and longevity of man. Sex is meant to be engaged in with strict divine regulation. Anything outside that it becomes a sin. Satan knows this and uses it to overturn the purpose of God for man in the world.


  1. Is sex sinful? Yes and no, too much of everything they say is bad, so sex can be sinful to someone but healthy to another, it all depends on the individual. Illicit & or sex for sale is sinfull & is highly frowned upon by the society and every religion, let’s put religion aside, sex between two consenting adults in love, devoid of monetary gain and or manipulation by my understanding is not sinful in any way because like food, the body also craves intimacy & where a person is not married or engaged to the person’s object of affection what happens? Because not every one has the opportunity of being married in fact some persons dont get married at all in their life time, Oprah is a living example of an unmarried woman in love & having sex with the same man for over forty years, because she fears marriage, there were others too like Cleopatra etc, of course sex is being abused like everyother thing on earth, food, drugs, money etc but for single or rather married or unmarried consenting adults sex can not & shouldn’t be seen as sinful, i dont subscribe to flirtations or having numerous bed partners but it gives people a reason to be happy, I mean, let’s do away with the hypocrisy surrounding sex because it is not just for procreation & distressing alone, it’s also a means of showing love because it brings two people in love together, imagine the level of depression, lose of self confidence, loneliness & the suicidal rate among unmarried adults without sex partners.

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